For most people, you are a role. That's natural. But gender doesn't (shouldn't) really play into it, for the most part. If it does, then changing the perception changes the role, to whatever extent.
In some cases, that means you won't be able to fulfill that role anymore (for example, if you were someone's gigolo before, you won't be able to do that anymore.) Or another role will open up (if you get bottom surgery you can be a prostitute! ;P)
In other cases, expectations and personal relationships will need to shift around a bit, but ultimately you're still fulfilling the same role (offspring, peer, significant other, etc.).
In most cases, it doesn't (shouldn't) matter at all. To most people, you're effectively an ID number with a few physical and employable characteristics, and that's it.
Maybe I misunderstood what you're saying, but I don't think an ultimatum is quite optimal here. Yes, tit for tat and all that, but someone acting out of self-preservation, even as vapidly as your father, doesn't make them entirely worthless.
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In some cases, that means you won't be able to fulfill that role anymore (for example, if you were someone's gigolo before, you won't be able to do that anymore.) Or another role will open up (if you get bottom surgery you can be a prostitute! ;P)
In other cases, expectations and personal relationships will need to shift around a bit, but ultimately you're still fulfilling the same role (offspring, peer, significant other, etc.).
In most cases, it doesn't (shouldn't) matter at all. To most people, you're effectively an ID number with a few physical and employable characteristics, and that's it.
Maybe I misunderstood what you're saying, but I don't think an ultimatum is quite optimal here. Yes, tit for tat and all that, but someone acting out of self-preservation, even as vapidly as your father, doesn't make them entirely worthless.