So I guess in the end what I need to do is create a transfeminism sanctuary for our needs and our movement and as a means to put pressure on feminism when it does silence me (when not if, as, like you said, it is only a matter of time before I get silenced at least once.)

As well as not explicitly trusting cis feminists with the power to harm me directly (which I've already done by keeping my identity secret to virtually everyone in the blogging world).

That should keep me safe while allowing me to reform feminism from within and without.