You're missing the very, very real power differential in all this. It doesn't matter how much someone wishes not to be addressed as a big-H Homosexual, it's going to happen. It's a straight world, and that's what straight people have labeled gay folk.

It's the same situation with transsexual. It's what we were labeled, by a bunch of cis-centric scientists. It describes how we are different from them, different from what is "normal".

This isn't about entitlement. This is about leveling the playing field.