I wasn't aware that respecting someone involved agreeing with their definition.

When it is my definition of myself, then hell yes it does.

Look, I know you really want to keep having this argument, but all this effort to lock down a concrete definition and make people stick to it is striving after the wind. You keep trying to make it about pedantry, and I'm trying to tell you that there are real people at the ends of those words, so really, fuck the definitions cuz at the end of the day they aren't important; the people behind them are, and what the hell is any part of this conversation doing for them?