That's some serious appropriation

Date: 2009-09-18 08:37 am (UTC)
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It's cool to have empathy for marginalised people, that's usually a prerequisite for being a good ally. But Ms. Boyd is so way out in left field with this I can't figure out how she got there.

These days my folks are going through a divorce. It's very hard on my mum and sometimes I cry for her, because I can see she's in so much pain. According to Ms. Boyd's outlook this means I, too, am going through a divorce.

Uhhhh... yeah

Should I get part of their belongings too?

My boyfriend tries his best to understand how my head works in order to make our life together work. But that does not make him part of of the non-neurotypical group. It merely makes him a relative, and no one's denying that it's hard to see the people you love go through shit, but it's not the same thing as actually going through it yourself.

Ms. Boyd has more or less appropriated her partner's experiences, using them as if they were her own. And that's not cool considering the power dynamic between cis and trans people. It's like the Borg: you (trans people) will be assimilated, resistance is futile. You will be absorbed and will not matter as inidividuals - Ms. Boyd is working on it.

She apparently hasn't realised that she can just stop being in a relationship with a trans person, that she has the privilege to walk away the day it becomes too much for her, while that trans person can't just stop being trans.

Sort of like Dr. Attwood & co invented Cassandra Syndrome to diagnose those poor sods who are so terribly beleagured by being in a relationship with an autist. A relationship they can at any time leave if they so choose.
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